As someone with a background in life coaching and who works in the personal development field, the pattern I saw repeated in every case studies in indigenous knowledge mirrors something that all coaches are taught almost from day one: Solutions coming from the outside will never fit as well as the solutions your client creates for themselves, because your solutions will always come from your experience, your understanding and your point of view. None of which is true for them.
Providing someone with a solution disempowers them, because it indicates that they can't create the solution themselves. It enables them, because it teaches them to rely on others for solutions, and it disengages them because it's your idea, not theirs.
We all feel less buy-in and less commitment to external ideas for our lives than for ideas we create ourselves. This means we care less, we do less and we give up after less resistance. And if things go badly, it's not our fault because it wasn't our idea. Therefore we feel less attachment to the outcome and less incentive to make it work. None of which is conducive for creating long-term, sustainable solutions.
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