Don’t fight culture
Why? because what you resist persists. I think it is important to distinguish what I mean exactly. In many ways I believe that our current systems in 'civilised' society no longer serve humanity as a community, however how I go about transforming community has grown over time. When I was a teen, I developed frustration and anger towards a very simple and common challenge that people in my life were faced with:
"I would really like to do this, but I don't have enough money"
This led me to start focusing on our entire monetary and free market system. I grew to hate this system, I mean honestly, wasn't the wh*** idea of capitalism supposed to improve the quality of life of the citizens that are within it? Yet when I look around, especially in London, we are working more hours, harder, and in roles that do not inspire us. This is London, a beacon of modern civilisation, how can this be?
I spoke to friends and family, asking "what do you really want?" and to "go for your dreams and passions". I was met with resignation time and time again, and often complete uncertainty as to what an individuals dreams and passion might even be. I pushed these conversations, often to the point of awkwardness, sometimes to the point of confrontation. I left these conversations with even more frustration and anger; not only were people that I love compromising their life, they were lashing out at me for talking about it.
But, I wasn't talking to my friends and family about their passions and dreams. I was talking to them about how their current life is so wrong. No human being appreciates being made wrong, especially when we are made wrong about how we live our lives.
After these confrontations, it was when I spoke to these people, and shared with them my new awareness of how I was coming across in these conversations (a rude a****** with no empathy), then sharing why I even attempted to have these conversations (to have the people I care about live a life they loved and where their own life was their inspiration), only then did these things start happening.
It is each person ability to empower themselves, friends, family, work colleagues and complete strangers to make a difference, that makes a difference. Confrontation maybe a part of moving someone forward, but confrontation alone does not. It is love at the foundational level that makes a difference in this world.