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"Don’t fight culture"
Dr. Ruby Payne wrote a book called "A Framework for Understanding Poverty". In it, she tells the story of a very poor family who receives a refrigerator as a gift from a church. The church congregation took up a collection to buy the refrigerator because the family did not have a refrigerator, and was spending what little money it had on eating out instead of cooking less expensive (and more nutritious) home-cooked meals.
Within a few weeks, the family disappears; they stop attending church and aren't anywhere to be found in the community. After a while they return to the community. As it turns out, they sold the refigerator and went on a short camping trip together.
When asked why they did this, the mother of the family replied that the biggest need she had was for her family to have a few days away from their "same old, same old" everyday life. The stresses caused by the never-changing lifestyle were relieved by the ability to take a "once-in-a-lifetime" mini-vacation. The family valued this relief more than the convenience of having a refrigerator.
This taught me that you can't "fight culture" and impose a solution on other people. The solution has to be one that fits people's own values and culture.